Soul mates or a Marriage Mate?
 I rightfully do not endorse Christians trying to make money of the gospel
or the Bibles, books, tapes listed even here for sale too.. them asking for money or any of the adds
Jesus himself said as you have freely received so freely give.
If anyone was to browse even the prayer requests  posted on the Internet one can quickly see that prayers for a mate take a large part of the center stage as well as THEIR personal concern of having more prosperity, a good, well paid  job, and one's good health.
Anyone involved in counseling knows that marriage complaints take the center stage there as well. Why? Many people are still personally really unhappy in life, single and married ones too. So what are the answers...
(Psa 145:9 KJV)  The LORD is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works. 10  All thy works shall praise thee, O LORD; and thy saints shall bless thee. 11  They shall speak of the glory of thy kingdom, and talk of thy power; 12  To make known to the sons of men his mighty acts, and the glorious majesty of his kingdom. 13  Thy kingdom is an everlasting kingdom, and thy dominion endureth throughout all generations. 14  The LORD upholdeth all that fall, and raiseth up all those that be bowed down. 15  The eyes of all wait upon thee; and thou givest them their meat in due season. 16  Thou openest thine hand, and satisfiest the desire of every living thing. 17  The LORD is righteous in all his ways, and holy in all his works. 18  The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. 19  He will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them. 20  The LORD preserveth all them that love him: but all the wicked will he destroy. 21  My mouth shall speak the praise of the LORD: and let all flesh bless his holy name for ever and ever. 146:1  Praise ye the LORD. Praise the LORD, O my soul. 2  While I live will I praise the LORD: I will sing praises unto my God while I have any being. 3  Put not your trust in princes, nor in the son of man, in whom there is no help.
These verses apply to your marriage relationships now as well.
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. 2  But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. 3  And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. 4  The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away. 5  Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous. 6  For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.  (Psalm1:1 KJV)
Eph 4:15   Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ
Too many people too readily accept professing Christians persons now as being real Christians. Many people still do fail to realize beforehand that the person that now they are even selecting on their own possibly for their mate may have unresolved personal issues, sins that will next have serious an adverse effect not only on their marriage, relationship but even on others as well. We need God's wisdom to know what some people are now really like still too.
What would you think seriously of a medical doctor who generally does not tell their client that they have a serious medical sickness, they may have major heart problems, they may have cancer. etc.. The reason this doctor does not tell his clients the truth is that he thinks that God himself still may change the reality and miraculous cure them, or the underlying fear that of the people hear negative news they will seek another doctor that will tell them the positive news, diagnosis they want to hear, so not to lose customers the doctor does not tell them the truth? You would say to me that is a real bad Doctor then?
Now what would you think of any of the pastors. elders who do the same thing, they do forbid any preaching, mention of negatives like sin, sins, judgment?
God has many descriptions for sinners, even words as hypocrites, adulterers, prostitutes, hirelings.. because most people are still not dependable, faithful, honest before god too.
I was actually praying for a person, thanking God they were a Christian, when God interrupted me and had said she is not one of mine, she is a seductress seducing my people. I was praying for another professing senior Christian person and I wanted next to meet with them again and God replied do not bother for they are not one of mine.
So what are PEOPLE  now really like?
Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. 21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.(Mat 7:20 KJV)   But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves..(James 1:22 KJV)
(Ezek 33:31 KJV)  And they come unto thee as the people cometh, and they sit before thee as my people, and they hear thy words, but they will not do them: for with their mouth they show much love, but their heart goeth after their covetousness.
(Mat 15:8 KJV)  This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. 9  But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
(Jer 8:5 KJV)  Why then is this people of Jerusalem slidden back by a perpetual backsliding? they hold fast deceit, they refuse to return.
(Jer 9:6 KJV)  Thine habitation is in the midst of deceit; through deceit they refuse to know me, saith the LORD.
(Jer 9:8 KJV)  Their tongue is as an arrow shot out; it speaketh deceit: one speaketh peaceably to his neighbour with his mouth, but in heart he layeth his wait.
(Mark 7:6 KJV)  He answered and said unto them, Well hath Esaias prophesied of you hypocrites, as it is written, This people honoureth me with their lips, but their heart is far from me. 7  Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. 8   For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.
(Mat 10:17 KJV)  But beware of men: for they will deliver you up to the councils, and they will scourge you in their synagogues;
It is not enough to accept the word of even a professing Christian, as to them even now being real, born again Christians too, While Membership, entrance to Heaven is free.. all of the personal requirements still have to be fully met, made even by them. Sadly that is not always the actual case.
(Luke 3:8 KJV)  Bring forth therefore fruits worthy of repentance, and begin not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to our father: for I say unto you, That God is able of these stones to raise up children unto Abraham. 9 And now also the ax is laid unto the root of the trees: every tree therefore which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.
(Luke 17:32 KJV)  Remember Lot's wife. 33   Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.
(Mat 7:21 KJV)  Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. 22  Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? 23   And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
(Psa 32:10 KJV)  Many sorrows shall be to the wicked: but he that trusteth in the LORD, mercy shall compass him about.
(2 Pet 2:4 KJV)  For if God spared not the angels that sinned, but cast them down to hell, and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved unto judgment;5  And spared not the old world, but saved Noah the eighth person, a preacher of righteousness, bringing in the flood upon the world of the ungodly; 6  And turning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrha into ashes condemned them with an overthrow, making them an ensample unto those that after should live ungodly; 7  And delivered just Lot, vexed with the filthy conversation of the wicked: 8  (For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds;) 9  The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:

Man is composed body, soul and sprit, and having a spouse, a person who only meets one's body needs is clearly not  enough, nor in fact is it enough next to have friendship only at the soulish level as well. Man has a spiritual vacuum that he seeks to be filled as well. Marriage is one way some people try to fill in the void they feel. Earthly Marriage it itself is never an adequate solution for all of your needs firstly  as well. We all need to daily be mindful of this truth now too. The truths mentioned here are important for us all, always too.
(1 Th 5:23 KJV)  And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
While the Apostle  Paul he himself had the gift of singleness IN MARRIAGE, and chose to remain single to do God’s work, he clearly acknowledged in his writings that not everyone was similarly gifted, but yet still Apostle Paul clearly said we all should be like him.. and what he  meant by that was that our marriage relationship should not at all come before our relationship with God, and our marriage relationship thus should not be at the expense of a relationship with God too.  We need to have a relationship continually with God even if we are married persons. Many people do not, do not even know how to achieve this too, even sadly professing Christian couples.
(Heb 13:5 KJV)  Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. 6  So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.
(1 Cor 7:32 KJV)  But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33  But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34  There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
(1 Cor 7:29 KJV)  But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; 30  And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; 31  And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
I was reviewing other people note's on Prayer, and God reminded me personally that prayer is not just a separate, simple something we do once every day, rather we are to continue our walk with God  all day, that is to continue praying all day, communicating with him, praying fervently as well. We cannot separate our prayer life also from our ongoing need of a continuing relationship with God now as well. Prayer is talking to God, continually now too, and it involves determining God's will in all areas of our life, and actively seeking  only  it next too.

Also  do Strive personally also to Exhibit the Character of Christ-- (Gal 6:10 KJV)  As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.  Do also Pray for an ability to love others, and a heart to be a helper to other believers even the way God designed you to be. The enemy is in the business of distorting the presence and the character of Christ in us, and we need to resist his efforts to do so. We need also  to move toward being Faithful and Loving and away from being Fearful and Loathing!  Unhealthy Fear and loathing of others, even the opposite sex sets in often as well after years of personal heartbreak and disappointing relationships, false expectations, laziness too. Ask God to help you again and to heal you, to give you a fresh, new heart and mind too.

(Eph 6:23 KJV)  Peace be to the brethren, and love with faith, from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
(John 13:34 KJV)  A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. 35   By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
(John 15:12 KJV)  This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.13  Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
(Rom 12:9 KJV)  Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. 10  Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
(Rom 12:10 KJV)  Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
(Rom 13:8 KJV)  Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.
(Rom 13:9 KJV)  For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.10  Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.
(2 Cor 6:6 KJV)  By pureness, by knowledge, by long-suffering, by kindness, by the Holy Ghost, by love unfeigned,
Learn How to Love others-- Study the Biblical definition of Love mentioned in 1Corinthians 13. Write it out, replace the word love with your name.
(1 Cor 13:1 KJV)  Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 4  Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5  Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6  Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7  Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8  Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 9  For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 10  But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. 11  When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12  For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. 13  And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.  14:1  Follow after charity, and desire spiritual gifts, but rather that ye may prophesy.
I am amazed as to how many people want to lead, to teach others, to be pastors even wrongfully when yet they have not learned how to love others.
How can you better demonstrate Godly love in all of your relationships? Let also down the walls of selfishness, greed, envy,  self-protection and mistrust. You have been a part of it's built up, and only you and God can tear it down.
Avoid the errors of others- Many many people still do make the very tragic mistake, fatal mistake in that they build their whole life around their marriage, their  spouse, and their family , thier relatives and they have no room next for God and anyone else.. and this is really unacceptable to God firstly too.
 (Psa 90:17 KJV)  And let the beauty of the LORD our God be upon us: and establish thou the work of our hands upon us; yea, the work of our hands establish thou it.
(2 Cor 11:2 KJV)  For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.
(2 Cor 11:3 KJV)  But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.
(2 Cor 11:4 KJV)  For if he that cometh preacheth another Jesus, whom we have not preached, or if ye receive another spirit, which ye have not received, or another gospel, which ye have not accepted, ye might well bear with him.
  (Gen 2:18 KJV)  And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
(Eccl 4:9 KJV)  Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.10  For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.11  Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? 12  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
I am amazed as to how many people will quote the above verses, still leaving God out of their picture..
Seeking Prayerfully God for a Godly Mate.. first principles

(1 Cor 7:39 KJV)  The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
Find Intercessors-- Ask your family and friends to pray for you and your future marriage. Remember the story of Isaac and Rebecca. The father and his servant were both praying and looking to God as they sought a bride for Isaac.
The Bible firstly clearly says that a Christian believer can only marry another believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, for we can have no significant relationship with the unbelievers..
(Psa 39:11 KJV)  When thou with rebukes dost correct man for iniquity, thou makest his beauty to consume away like a moth: surely every man is vanity. Selah.
(Psa 49:14 KJV)  Like sheep they are laid in the grave; death shall feed on them; and the upright shall have dominion over them in the morning; and their beauty shall consume in the grave from their dwelling.
This prayer process for a godly mate can consists of four steps:
1) Seek to know God for who He really is, a personal God who cares to be involved in  each area of your life on earth now too.
2) Seek to obey Him in your day to day life, you determine his will by medidating daily in his word.
3) Seek also to understand and appreciate all men and women for whom God made them to be ( and do  see the differences between women and men), and finally,
4) Seek to embrace also a proper man's and a proper woman’s biblical role and responsibility in a marriage relationship. (By this I mean, respect a man’s role to lead and head a family and accept a woman’s role to follow that leadership and help that man in every aspect of his life.)

Ask for Wisdom and Discernment-- Learn to walk by faith and not by sight when it comes to finding a mate. Study how to hear the voice of God, how he leads us in decision making. We look at the exterior of a man, God looks at the heart. Start looking at the heart of a man or a women , not at their false  external features. The spirutal character of a man or a women is his true value.
(Prov 6:25 KJV)  Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids.
(Prov 20:29 KJV)  The glory of young men is their strength: and the beauty of old men is the grey head.
(Prov 31:30 KJV)  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
(Prov 28:21 KJV)  To have respect of persons is not good: for for a piece of bread that man will transgress.
(Isa 3:24 KJV)  And it shall come to pass, that instead of sweet smell there shall be stink; and instead of a girdle a rent; and instead of well set hair baldness; and instead of a stomacher a girding of sackcloth; and burning instead of beauty.
(Isa 13:19 KJV)  And Babylon, the glory of kingdoms, the beauty of the Chaldees' excellency, shall be as when God overthrew Sodom and Gomorrah.
(Isa 28:1 KJV)  Woe to the crown of pride, to the drunkards of Ephraim, whose glorious beauty is a fading flower, which are on the head of the fat valleys of them that are overcome with wine!
(Isa 28:4 KJV)  And the glorious beauty, which is on the head of the fat valley, shall be a fading flower, and as the hasty fruit before the summer; which when he that looketh upon it seeth, while it is yet in his hand he eateth it up.
(Ezek 16:15 KJV)  But thou didst trust in thine own beauty, and playedst the harlot because of thy renown, and pouredst out thy fornications on every one that passed by; his it was.
(Ezek 16:25 KJV)  Thou hast built thy high place at every head of the way, and hast made thy beauty to be abhorred, and hast opened thy feet to every one that passed by, and multiplied thy whoredoms.
(Ezek 28:17 KJV)  Thine heart was lifted up because of thy beauty, thou hast corrupted thy wisdom by reason of thy brightness: I will cast thee to the ground, I will lay thee before kings, that they may behold thee.

Seek also Partners in Prayer-- Pray with a like-minded Christian for your relationships, with God and others,  and your future spouse.  When two or more are gathered together, He is in their midst and hears and answers their prayers! Ask God to deliver you from the Evil One. Ask Him to remove bondages, hindrances, curses, and generational sins.
Become a Member of a Prayer Team-- Surround yourself with uplifting, positive, "permission giving" influences. Join a small group that studies the Word and Prays together. The Word says, "Confess your sins to one another, that you may be healed." Some healing requires confession before a group. Other healing will come only through fasting and prayer. Some of my most important breakthroughs came after a day of fasting.
Begin the Discipline of Scripture Reading-- Seek to know God, to understand his character and His ways. Pray for Him to give you wisdom, discernment. Pray for God to illumine your path. He will do this as you read scripture. Put together an aggressive schedule of daily Bible reading. Before you read, pray and ask God to handle the issues and conflicts that you would normally seek human counsel for. I read asking God to show me who He was, how to love, how to forgive, how to heal, etc. The One True God is the only one who knows you intimately, even better than you know yourself. Seek His counsel rather than the counsel of man.
Start a Daily Diary-- Journal your Bible reading  thought process. Writing is healing. I wrote Letters to God, which helped me pour out the frustration, grief and joys along my path. First thing in the morning is a good time to do this.
Set Aside Daily Regular Private Time for Prayer and Seeking God-- and Seeking God-- Pray on your knees daily, both morning and night. Humble yourself before the Lord. Seek his will for your relationship life and your future husband. Bathe every current relationship in prayer. Ask God to reveal whether or not this person is the one He has chosen for you. Expect to hear from God! Pray through all painful, past relationships. Turn them over to God, repent of any sin, and ask for inner healing of all those wounds.
Count on God In Spite of Your Circumstances-- Faith is believing in something we can’t yet see. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. He is our Provider of all our basic needs and desires. Certainly marriage is one of the basics. Study Genesis account of the first marriage and what God says about it not being good for the man to be alone, and the need for a man to have a helper.
Become a Master of Forgiveness-- Forgive all those who have hurt you along life’s path. Forgiveness is the key to learning how to love. Christ’s love for mankind was principally expressed through his mercy and forgiveness. As we extend the same to our family and friends, God is equipping us to be a Godly wife. We will be able to love our husbands in the same way Christ loves us.
(Heb 13:4 KJV)  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Beaware- Satan hates marriage, and comes against it with his full arsenal. But God is more powerful and you have the authority to stop Satan’s mission against your marriage. The Authority of the Believer!
Prepare Yourself for Marriage-- Happily married people know something single people don’t know. They have learned how to get married and stay married. Be a good student. Study marriage and courtship books and biographies of happily married Christians. I found many good books in church libraries. Let God change your mind about men, marriage. Study Proverbs and Psalms—Psalms is the most healing book of the Bible, Proverbs teaches the most about wisdom.
Ask God to Bring You a Good Spouse-- Above all, ask God to arrange the marriage for you! We need not shy away from asking for our needs to be met by a Father who loves us! Pray for your future spouse and their  family every day.
1Corinthians 7:2—Because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
 Ephesians 5:22-33—Wives be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of his own body. for this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and his church. Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.
 1Timothy 4:1-5—But the Spirit explicitly says that in later times some will fall away from the faith, paying attention to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons, by means of the hypocrisy of liars seared in their own conscience as with a branding iron, men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining from foods, which God has created to be gratefully shared in by those who believe and know the truth. For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected, if it is received with gratitude; for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer.
1 Timothy 5:14—Therefore, I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house, and give the enemy no occasion for reproach; for some have already turned aside to follow Satan.
Hebrews 13:4—Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
There is no provision for divorce of any Christians, God hates divorce.
(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
Desired Qualities  & Character in a mate  
Honest and Fair in His Dealings
A false balance is an abomination to the Lord, but a just weight is his delight. Proverbs 11:1
A Companion of Wise Men
He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. Prov. 13:20
A Good Decision Maker
The naive believes everything, but the prudent man considers his steps. A wise man is cautious and turns from evil, but a fool is arrogant and careless. Prov. 14:15-16
Not Argumentative
Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it than a house full of feasting and strife. Prov 17:1
A Responsible Worker
He also who is slack in his work is brother to him who destroys. Prov. 18:9
A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who tells lies will perish. Prov. 19:9
Slow to Anger
A man's discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression. Prov. 19:11
Charitable to the Poor
He who is gracious to a poor man lends to the Lord, and He will repay him for his good deed. Prov. 19:17
Kind and Truthful
What is desirable in a man is his kindness, and it is better to be a poor man than a liar. Prov. 19:22
Temperate and Sober
Wine is a mocker, strong drink a brawler, and whoever is intoxicated by it is not wise. Prov 20:1
Known for His Good Deeds
It is by his deeds that a lad distinguishes himself--if his conduct is pure and right. Prov. 20:11
Respectful of Authority/Honoring to Parents
He who curses his father or his mother, his lamp will go out in time of darkness. Prov. 20:20
Loyal, Faithful and Righteous
Loyalty and truth preserve the king, and he upholds his throne by righteousness. Prov. 20:28
In Control of His Tongue
He who guards his mouth and his tongue, guards his soul from troubles. -Prov 21:23
Respected by Others
A good name is to be more desired than great riches. Prov. 22:1
(1 Tim 3:2 KJV)  A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach
Desired Qualities  & Character in a female mate
(Prov 18:22 KJV)  Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
(Prov 31:10 KJV)  Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 13  She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. 14  She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. 15  She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. 16  She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. 17  She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.  18  She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. 19  She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. 20  She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. 21  She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22  She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. 23  Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. 24  She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. 25  Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 26  She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 27  She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29  Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.30  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. 31  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
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Three reasons for many failed marriages include- personal laziness, unrealistic marital goals and expectations, secular priorities.. and note this the real  garbage that people do personally still bring with them into their marriage.. their own poor values too.
Many preachers still today  are not honest enough to say the main reasons many people are facing continually unresolved personal problems in their earthly  life today.
(Prov 26:2 KJV)  As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come.
(Psa 35:19 KJV)  Let not them that are mine enemies wrongfully rejoice over me: neither let them wink with the eye that hate me without a cause.
(Psa 69:4 KJV)  They that hate me without a cause are more than the hairs of mine head: they that would destroy me, being mine enemies wrongfully, are mighty: then I restored that which I took not away.
(Psa 109:3 KJV)  They compassed me about also with words of hatred; and fought against me without a cause.
(Psa 119:78 KJV)  Let the proud be ashamed; for they dealt perversely with me without a cause: but I will meditate in thy precepts.
(Psa 119:161 KJV)   Princes have persecuted me without a cause: but my heart standeth in awe of thy word.
(Mat 5:22 KJV)  But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
(John 15:25 KJV)  But this cometh to pass, that the word might be fulfilled that is written in their law, They hated me without a cause.
False preachers even today still often tell the people that God will bless them even though they have clearly rejected personally following after God and his way.
(Ezek 13:3 KJV)  Thus saith the Lord GOD; Woe unto the foolish prophets, that follow their own spirit, and have seen nothing! 4  O Israel, thy prophets are like the foxes in the deserts. 5  Ye have not gone up into the gaps, neither made up the hedge for the house of Israel to stand in the battle in the day of the LORD. 6  They have seen vanity and lying divination, saying, The LORD saith: and the LORD hath not sent them: and they have made others to hope that they would confirm the word. 7  Have ye not seen a vain vision, and have ye not spoken a lying divination, whereas ye say, The LORD saith it; albeit I have not spoken? 8  Therefore thus saith the Lord GOD; Because ye have spoken vanity, and seen lies, therefore, behold, I am against you, saith the Lord GOD. 9  And mine hand shall be upon the prophets that see vanity, and that divine lies: they shall not be in the assembly of my people, neither shall they be written in the writing of the house of Israel, neither shall they enter into the land of Israel; and ye shall know that I am the Lord GOD. 10  Because, even because they have seduced my people, saying, Peace; and there was no peace; and one built up a wall, and, lo, others daubed it with untempered mortar: 11  Say unto them which daub it with untempered mortar, that it shall fall: there shall be an overflowing shower; and ye, O great hailstones, shall fall; and a stormy wind shall rend it. 12  Lo, when the wall is fallen, shall it not be said unto you, Where is the daubing wherewith ye have daubed it? 13  Therefore thus saith the Lord GOD; I will even rend it with a stormy wind in my fury; and there shall be an overflowing shower in mine anger, and great hailstones in my fury to consume it. 14  So will I break down the wall that ye have daubed with untempered mortar, and bring it down to the ground, so that the foundation thereof shall be discovered, and it shall fall, and ye shall be consumed in the midst thereof: and ye shall know that I am the LORD. 15  Thus will I accomplish my wrath upon the wall, and upon them that have daubed it with untempered mortar, and will say unto you, The wall is no more, neither they that daubed it; 16  To wit, the prophets of Israel which prophesy concerning Jerusalem, and which see visions of peace for her, and there is no peace, saith the Lord GOD.
Not only do we have false religious teachers today but note this we also have false wives, wives  or husbands) who have a false concept of what marriage really is, to the false wife the marriage is a slavery, an act of the husband's total, false submission to fulfill all the needs, expectation of the wife... which eventually ends up in a divorce as a direct result too.
(Ezek 13:17 KJV)  Likewise, thou son of man, set thy face against the daughters of thy people, which prophesy out of their own heart; and prophesy thou against them, 18  And say, Thus saith the Lord GOD; Woe to the women that sew pillows to all armholes, and make kerchiefs upon the head of every stature to hunt souls! Will ye hunt the souls of my people, and will ye save the souls alive that come unto you? 19  And will ye pollute me among my people for handfuls of barley and for pieces of bread, to slay the souls that should not die, and to save the souls alive that should not live, by your lying to my people that hear your lies? 20  Wherefore thus saith the Lord GOD; Behold, I am against your pillows, wherewith ye there hunt the souls to make them fly, and I will tear them from your arms, and will let the souls go, even the souls that ye hunt to make them fly. 21  Your kerchiefs also will I tear, and deliver my people out of your hand, and they shall be no more in your hand to be hunted; and ye shall know that I am the LORD. 22  Because with lies ye have made the heart of the righteous sad, whom I have not made sad; and strengthened the hands of the wicked, that he should not return from his wicked way, by promising him life: 23  Therefore ye shall see no more vanity, nor divine divinations: for I will deliver my people out of your hand: and ye shall know that I am the LORD.
(Lam 3:46 KJV)  All our enemies have opened their mouths against us. 47  Fear and a snare is come upon us, desolation and destruction. 48  Mine eye runneth down with rivers of water for the destruction of the daughter of my people.  49  Mine eye trickleth down, and ceaseth not, without any intermission, 50  Till the LORD look down, and behold from heaven. 51  Mine eye affecteth mine heart because of all the daughters of my city. 52  Mine enemies chased me sore, like a bird, without cause. 53  They have cut off my life in the dungeon, and cast a stone upon me. 54  Waters flowed over mine head; then I said, I am cut off. 55  I called upon thy name, O LORD, out of the low dungeon. 56  Thou hast heard my voice: hide not thine ear at my breathing, at my cry. 57  Thou drewest near in the day that I called upon thee: thou saidst, Fear not. 58  O Lord, thou hast pleaded the causes of my soul; thou hast redeemed my life. 59  O LORD, thou hast seen my wrong: judge thou my cause. 60  Thou hast seen all their vengeance and all their imaginations against me. 61  Thou hast heard their reproach, O LORD, and all their imaginations against me; 62  The lips of those that rose up against me, and their device against me all the day.  63  Behold their sitting down, and their rising up; I am their music. 64  Render unto them a recompense, O LORD, according to the work of their hands. 65  Give them sorrow of heart, thy curse unto them. 66  Persecute and destroy them in anger from under the heavens of the LORD.
(Isa 22:4 KJV)  Therefore said I, Look away from me: I will weep bitterly, labour not to comfort me, because of the spoiling of the daughter of my people .5 For it is a day of trouble, and of treading down, and of perplexity by the Lord GOD of hosts in the valley of vision, breaking down the walls, and of crying to the mountains.
(Jer 4:10 KJV)  Then said I, Ah, Lord GOD! surely thou hast greatly deceived this people and Jerusalem, saying, Ye shall have peace; whereas the sword reacheth unto the soul.11 At that time shall it be said to this people and to Jerusalem, A dry wind of the high places in the wilderness toward the daughter of my people, not to fan, nor to cleanse, 12  Even a full wind from those places shall come unto me: now also will I give sentence against them. 13  Behold, he shall come up as clouds, and his chariots shall be as a whirlwind: his horses are swifter than eagles. Woe unto us! for we are spoiled. 14  O Jerusalem, wash thine heart from wickedness, that thou mayest be saved. How long shall thy vain thoughts lodge within thee?...16  Make ye mention to the nations; behold, publish against Jerusalem, that watchers come from a far country, and give out their voice against the cities of Judah. 17  As keepers of a field, are they against her round about; because she hath been rebellious against me, saith the LORD. 18  Thy way and thy doings have procured these things unto thee; this is thy wickedness, because it is bitter, because it reacheth unto thine heart.
(Jer 6:9 KJV)  Thus saith the LORD of hosts, They shall thoroughly glean the remnant of Israel as a vine: turn back thine hand as a grapegatherer into the baskets. 10  To whom shall I speak, and give warning, that they may hear? behold, their ear is uncircumcised, and they cannot hearken: behold, the word of the LORD is unto them a reproach; they have no delight in it. 11  Therefore I am full of the fury of the LORD; I am weary with holding in: I will pour it out upon the children abroad, and upon the assembly of young men together: for even the husband with the wife shall be taken, the aged with him that is full of days. 12  And their houses shall be turned unto others, with their fields and wives together: for I will stretch out my hand upon the inhabitants of the land, saith the LORD. 13  For from the least of them even unto the greatest of them every one is given to covetousness; and from the prophet even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely. 14  They have healed also the hurt of the daughter of my people slightly, saying, Peace, peace; when there is no peace. 15  Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush: therefore they shall fall among them that fall: at the time that I visit them they shall be cast down, saith the LORD. 16  Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein. 17  Also I set watchmen over you, saying, Hearken to the sound of the trumpet. But they said, We will not hearken.
(Jer 3:20 KJV)  Surely as a wife treacherously departeth from her husband, so have ye dealt treacherously with me, O house of Israel, saith the LORD. 21 A voice was heard upon the high places, weeping and supplications of the children of Israel: for they have perverted their way, and they have forgotten the LORD their God. 22  Return, ye backsliding children, and I will heal your backslidings. Behold, we come unto thee; for thou art the LORD our God.23   Truly in vain is salvation hoped for from the hills, and from the multitude of mountains: truly in the LORD our God is the salvation of Israel.
(Jer 8:5 KJV)  Why then is this people of Jerusalem slidden back by a perpetual backsliding? they hold fast deceit, they refuse to return. 6  I hearkened and heard, but they spake not aright: no man repented him of his wickedness, saying, What have I done? every one turned to his course, as the horse rusheth into the battle. 7  Yea, the stork in the heaven knoweth her appointed times; and the turtle and the crane and the swallow observe the time of their coming; but my people know not the judgment of the LORD. 8  How do ye say, We are wise, and the law of the LORD is with us? Lo, certainly in vain made he it; the pen of the scribes is in vain. 9  The wise men are ashamed, they are dismayed and taken: lo, they have rejected the word of the LORD; and what wisdom is in them?  10  Therefore will I give their wives unto others, and their fields to them that shall inherit them: for every one from the least even unto the greatest is given to covetousness, from the prophet even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely. 11  For they have healed the hurt of the daughter of my people slightly, saying, Peace, peace; when there is no peace. 12  Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush: therefore shall they fall among them that fall: in the time of their visitation they shall be cast down, saith the LORD. 13  I will surely consume them, saith the LORD: there shall be no grapes on the vine, nor figs on the fig tree, and the leaf shall fade; and the things that I have given them shall pass away from them. 14  Why do we sit still? assemble yourselves, and let us enter into the defenced cities, and let us be silent there: for the LORD our God hath put us to silence, and given us water of gall to drink, because we have sinned against the LORD. 15  We looked for peace, but no good came; and for a time of health, and behold trouble!
WE ACTUALLY SEE ALSO STILL ALL OF THESE PROPHECIES BEING FULFILLED IN ISRAEL TOO TODAY, WHERE THE PEOPLE THERE EXCEPT, SEEK PEACE BUT NEVER FIND IT.  Their false leaders do not tell them the real reason they are still suffering, cause they have sinfully, self centrally, wrongfully reject Jesus Christ, the God and His way, his will for them.. God's judgments similar falls of the false, professing Christians who have rejected God and his way.
(Jer 8:17 KJV)  For, behold, I will send serpents, cockatrices, among you, which will not be charmed, and they shall bite you, saith the LORD. 18  When I would comfort myself against sorrow, my heart is faint in me. 19  Behold the voice of the cry of the daughter of my people because of them that dwell in a far country: Is not the LORD in Zion? is not her king in her? Why have they provoked me to anger with their graven images, and with strange vanities? 20  The harvest is past, the summer is ended, and we are not saved. 21  For the hurt of the daughter of my people am I hurt; I am black; astonishment hath taken hold on me. 22  Is there no balm in Gilead; is there no physician there? why then is not the health of the daughter of my people recovered? 9:1  Oh that my head were waters, and mine eyes a fountain of tears, that I might weep day and night for the slain of the daughter of my people! 2  Oh that I had in the wilderness a lodging place of wayfaring men; that I might leave my people, and go from them! for they be all adulterers, an assembly of treacherous men. 3  And they bend their tongues like their bow for lies: but they are not valiant for the truth upon the earth; for they proceed from evil to evil, and they know not me, saith the LORD. 4  Take ye heed every one of his neighbour, and trust ye not in any brother: for every brother will utterly supplant, and every neighbour will walk with slanders. 5  And they will deceive every one his neighbour, and will not speak the truth: they have taught their tongue to speak lies, and weary themselves to commit iniquity. 6  Thine habitation is in the midst of deceit; through deceit they refuse to know me, saith the LORD. 7  Therefore thus saith the LORD of hosts, Behold, I will melt them, and try them; for how shall I do for the daughter of my people? 8  Their tongue is as an arrow shot out; it speaketh deceit: one speaketh peaceably to his neighbour with his mouth, but in heart he layeth his wait.  9  Shall I not visit them for these things? saith the LORD: shall not my soul be avenged on such a nation as this? 10  For the mountains will I take up a weeping and wailing, and for the habitations of the wilderness a lamentation, because they are burned up, so that none can pass through them; neither can men hear the voice of the cattle; both the fowl of the heavens and the beast are fled; they are gone. 11  And I will make Jerusalem heaps, and a den of dragons; and I will make the cities of Judah desolate, without an inhabitant. 12  Who is the wise man, that may understand this? and who is he to whom the mouth of the LORD hath spoken, that he may declare it, for what the land perisheth and is burned up like a wilderness, that none passeth through?  13  And the LORD saith, Because they have forsaken my law which I set before them, and have not obeyed my voice, neither walked therein; 14  But have walked after the imagination of their own heart, and after Baalim, which their fathers taught them: 15  Therefore thus saith the LORD of hosts, the God of Israel; Behold, I will feed them, even this people, with wormwood, and give them water of gall to drink. 16  I will scatter them also among the heathen, whom neither they nor their fathers have known: and I will send a sword after them, till I have consumed them. 17  Thus saith the LORD of hosts, Consider ye, and call for the mourning women, that they may come; and send for cunning women, that they may come: 18  And let them make haste, and take up a wailing for us, that our eyes may run down with tears, and our eyelids gush out with waters. 19  For a voice of wailing is heard out of Zion, How are we spoiled! we are greatly confounded, because we have forsaken the land, because our dwellings have cast us out.

 (Lam 2:11 KJV)  Mine eyes do fail with tears, my bowels are troubled, my liver is poured upon the earth, for the destruction of th12  They say to their mothers, Where is corn and wine? when they swooned as the wounded in the streets of the city, when their soul was poured out into their mothers' bosom. 13  What thing shall I take to witness for thee? what thing shall I liken to thee, O daughter of Jerusalem? what shall I equal to thee, that I may comfort thee, O virgin daughter of Zion? for thy breach is great like the sea: who can heal thee? 14  Thy prophets have seen vain and foolish things for thee: and they have not discovered thine iniquity, to turn away thy captivity; but have seen for thee false burdens and causes of banishment. 15  All that pass by clap their hands at thee; they hiss and wag their head at the daughter of Jerusalem, saying, Is this the city that men call The perfection of beauty, The joy of the whole earth? 16  All thine enemies have opened their mouth against thee: they hiss and gnash the teeth: they say, We have swallowed her up: certainly this is the day that we looked for; we have found, we have seen it. 17  The LORD hath done that which he had devised; he hath fulfilled his word that he had commanded in the days of old: he hath thrown down, and hath not pitied: and he hath caused thine enemy to rejoice over thee, he hath set up the horn of thine adversaries. 18  Their heart cried unto the Lord, O wall of the daughter of Zion, let tears run down like a river day and night: give thyself no rest; let not the apple of thine eye cease. 19  Arise, cry out in the night: in the beginning of the watches pour out thine heart like water before the face of the Lord: lift up thy hands toward him for the life of thy young children, that faint for hunger in the top of every street. e daughter of my people; because the children and the sucklings swoon in the streets of the city.
(Lam 4:3 KJV)  Even the sea monsters draw out the breast, they give suck to their young ones: the daughter of my people is become cruel, like the ostriches in the wilderness.
(Lam 4:10 KJV)  The hands of the pitiful women have sodden their own children: they were their meat in the destruction of the daughter of my people. 11  The LORD hath accomplished his fury; he hath poured out his fierce anger, and hath kindled a fire in Zion, and it hath devoured the foundations thereof. 12  The kings of the earth, and all the inhabitants of the world, would not have believed that the adversary and the enemy should have entered into the gates of Jerusalem. 13  For the sins of her prophets, and the iniquities of her priests, that have shed the blood of the just in the midst of her, 14  They have wandered as blind men in the streets, they have polluted themselves with blood, so that men could not touch their garments. 15  They cried unto them, Depart ye; it is unclean; depart, depart, touch not: when they fled away and wandered, they said among the heathen, They shall no more sojourn there. 16  The anger of the LORD hath divided them; he will no more regard them: they respected not the persons of the priests, they favoured not the elders. 17  As for us, our eyes as yet failed for our vain help: in our watching we have watched for a nation that could not save us.
(Lam 4:19 KJV)  Our persecutors are swifter than the eagles of the heaven: they pursued us upon the mountains, they laid wait for us in the wilderness.
(Lam 4:20 KJV)  The breath of our nostrils, the anointed of the LORD, was taken in their pits, of whom we said, Under his shadow we shall live among the heathen.
(Lam 4:21 KJV)  Rejoice and be glad, O daughter of Edom, that dwellest in the land of Uz; the cup also shall pass through unto thee: thou shalt be drunken, and shalt make thyself naked.
Most People still too easily forget the awful real physical consequences, punishment Jesus paid for our sins.. proof that God does not take our unrepentant sins still lightly.
While there is no provision for divorce by God of any believers even today, there is provision for marital separation though

(Psa 119:9 KJV)   Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word.

(Psa 109:26 KJV)  Help me, O LORD my God: O save me according to thy mercy:
(Psa 119:25 KJV)   My soul cleaveth unto the dust: quicken thou me according to thy word.
(Psa 119:28 KJV)  My soul melteth for heaviness: strengthen thou me according unto thy word.
(Psa 119:41 KJV)   Let thy mercies come also unto me, O LORD, even thy salvation, according to thy word.
(Psa 119:58 KJV)  I entreated thy favour with my whole heart: be merciful unto me according to thy word.
(Psa 119:76 KJV)  Let, I pray thee, thy merciful kindness be for my comfort, according to thy word unto thy servant.
(Psa 119:107 KJV)  I am afflicted very much: quicken me, O LORD, according unto thy word.
(Psa 119:116 KJV)  Uphold me according unto thy word, that I may live: and let me not be ashamed of my hope.
(Psa 119:169 KJV)  Let my cry come near before thee, O LORD: give me understanding according to thy word.
(Psa 119:170 KJV)  Let my supplication come before thee: deliver me according to thy word.
and what about us also obeying God's clear word firstly to us too? even this verse now too..
(Prov 21:9 KJV)  It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
This verse applies to a brawling husband now too.....
Does a Christian wife or a Christian Husband now have to accept a clearly non Christian behavior of an abusive spouse, and their  abuses..  no!!!  and where in the Bible does it say she has to now as well..
How do people become brawlers, spoiled rotten people who are used to have their own way and when they can't get it they next still wrongfully resort to brawling to try to get it..
(James 4:1 KJV)  From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?  2  Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. 3  Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. 4  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. 5  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy? 6  But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. 7  Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. 9  Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. 10  Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
(Prov 21:9 KJV)  It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
(Psa 37:23 KJV)  The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.
God will only help us if we do things his way, not our way!
(Psa 18:32 KJV)  It is God that girdeth me with strength, and maketh my way perfect.  33  He maketh my feet like hinds' feet, and setteth me upon my high places. 34  He teacheth my hands to war, so that a bow of steel is broken by mine arms.  35  Thou hast also given me the shield of thy salvation: and thy right hand hath holden me up, and thy gentleness hath made me great. 36  Thou hast enlarged my steps under me, that my feet did not slip. 37  I have pursued mine enemies, and overtaken them: neither did I turn again till they were consumed. 38  I have wounded them that they were not able to rise: they are fallen under my feet. 39  For thou hast girded me with strength unto the battle: thou hast subdued under me those that rose up against me. 40  Thou hast also given me the necks of mine enemies; that I might destroy them that hate me. 41  They cried, but there was none to save them: even unto the LORD, but he answered them not. 42  Then did I beat them small as the dust before the wind: I did cast them out as the dirt in the streets. 43  Thou hast delivered me from the strivings of the people; and thou hast made me the head of the heathen: a people whom I have not known shall serve me. 44  As soon as they hear of me, they shall obey me: the strangers shall submit themselves unto me. 45  The strangers shall fade away, and be afraid out of their close places. 46  The LORD liveth; and blessed be my rock; and let the God of my salvation be exalted. 47  It is God that avengeth me, and subdueth the people under me. 48  He delivereth me from mine enemies: yea, thou liftest me up above those that rise up against me: thou hast delivered me from the violent man. 49  Therefore will I give thanks unto thee, O LORD, among the heathen, and sing praises unto thy name.  50  Great deliverance giveth he to his king; and showeth mercy to his anointed, to David, and to his seed for evermore.
(Psa 25:7 KJV)  Remember not the sins of my youth, nor my transgressions: according to thy mercy remember thou me for thy goodness' sake, O LORD.
(Psa 33:22 KJV)  Let thy mercy, O LORD, be upon us, according as we hope in thee.
(Psa 51:1 KJV)  To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David, when Nathan the prophet came unto him, after he had gone in to Bathsheba. Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions.
(Psa 62:12 KJV)  Also unto thee, O Lord, belongeth mercy: for thou renderest to every man according to his work.
(Psa 69:16 KJV)  Hear me, O LORD; for thy lovingkindness is good: turn unto me according to the multitude of thy tender mercies.
(Psa 119:124 KJV)  Deal with thy servant according unto thy mercy, and teach me thy statutes.
(Psa 119:149 KJV)  Hear my voice according unto thy lovingkindness: O LORD, quicken me according to thy judgment.
(Psa 119:154 KJV)  Plead my cause, and deliver me: quicken me according to thy word.
(Psa 119:156 KJV)  Great are thy tender mercies, O LORD: quicken me according to thy judgments.
(Psa 150:2 KJV)  Praise him for his mighty acts: praise him according to his excellent greatness.  
(John 13:15 KJV)  For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.
(1 Tim 4:12 KJV)  Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
(Heb 4:11 KJV)  Let us labour therefore to enter into that rest, lest any man fall after the same example of unbelief.
(James 5:10 KJV)  Take, my brethren, the prophets, who have spoken in the name of the Lord, for an example of suffering affliction, and of patience.
(1 Pet 2:21 KJV)  For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:
(Eccl 3:11 KJV)  He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
(Jude 1:7 KJV)  Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
(Mat 6:24 KJV)  No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.
(Mark 3:27 KJV)  No man can enter into a strong man's house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.
(John 6:44 KJV)  No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
(John 6:65 KJV)  And he said, Therefore said I unto you, that no man can come unto me, except it were given unto him of my Father.
(1 Cor 12:3 KJV)  Wherefore I give you to understand, that no man speaking by the Spirit of God calleth Jesus accursed: and that no man can say that Jesus is the Lord, but by the Holy Ghost.
(Rev 3:8 KJV)  I know thy works: behold, I have set before thee an open door, and no man can shut it: for thou hast a little strength, and hast kept my word, and hast not denied my name.
Over the many years of my Christian life God has had to often return me to simple, basic, Christian truths.. truths I often repeat to you as well now.. even about false prayers, false teacher, false Pastors.  God personally had told me there is a demonic, human , religious way to serve worship, to follow after God as opposed to the right, honest, good way too. One's attitude towards money will  be also an indication of one's relationship with God in reality.. you cannot serve God and  money.. for there is no such thing as a little bit pregnant too.. you tell who they are by all of their fruits.. the good and the bad fruits.. one cannot prostitute oneself even in the ministry.. it is still inappropriate for any pastors to take large salaries as well as for them to live high on the hog, or in expensive earthly mansions, or to beg, to ask for more money too.  Serving God is not always the same as having a real relationship with him now as well. One still also  needs to live the gospel personally not just preach it to others. So do Beware of men.
Nevertheless while God is patient he will not at all acquit the unrepentant guilty persons still
(Nahum 1:3 KJV)  The LORD is slow to anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the LORD hath his way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of his feet.4  He rebuketh the sea, and maketh it dry, and drieth up all the rivers: Bashan languisheth, and Carmel, and the flower of Lebanon languisheth.
(Jer 12:12 KJV) 12  The spoilers are come upon all high places through the wilderness: for the sword of the LORD shall devour from the one end of the land even to the other end of the land: no flesh shall have peace. 13  They have sown wheat, but shall reap thorns: they have put themselves to pain, but shall not profit: and they shall be ashamed of your revenues because of the fierce anger of the LORD.
(Jer 9:7 KJV)  Therefore thus saith the LORD of hosts, Behold, I will melt them, and try them; for how shall I do for the daughter of my people? 8 Their tongue is as an arrow shot out; it speaketh deceit: one speaketh peaceably to his neighbour with his mouth, but in heart he layeth his wait.9   Shall I not visit them for these things? saith the LORD: shall not my soul be avenged on such a nation as this?
(Ezek 13: KJV)   4  O Israel, thy prophets are like the foxes in the deserts. 5  Ye have not gone up into the gaps, neither made up the hedge for the house of Israel to stand in the battle in the day of the LORD. 6  They have seen vanity and lying divination, saying, The LORD saith: and the LORD hath not sent them: and they have made others to hope that they would confirm the word. 7  Have ye not seen a vain vision, and have ye not spoken a lying divination, whereas ye say, The LORD saith it; albeit I have not spoken? ...     10  Because, even because they have seduced my people, saying, Peace; and there was no peace; and one built up a wall, and, lo, others daubed it with untempered mortar: 11  Say unto them which daub it with untempered mortar, that it shall fall: there shall be an overflowing shower; and ye, O great hailstones, shall fall; and a stormy wind shall rend it. 12  Lo, when the wall is fallen, shall it not be said unto you, Where is the daubing wherewith ye have daubed it?
I am also surprised as to how many Christians also do now serve the devil, for the making of more money is their main  personal God, goal  still too.
(Jer 17:5 KJV)  Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD. 6   For he shall be like the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh; but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land and not inhabited.
(Jer 17:7 KJV)  Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is.8  For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit.
(2 Pet 2:15 KJV)  Which have forsaken the right way, and are gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Bosor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;
(Mat 21:13 KJV)   My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves.
 (Mat 6:24 KJV)  No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. 25  Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 26  Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? 27  Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? 28  And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: 29  And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30  Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith? 31  Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? 32  (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. 33  But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. 34  Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.

There are much too many crooks, wolves in sheep clothing, hirelings even in Canada's evangelical churches who are wrongfully pursing their greed, their false  idols of make more money for themselves firstly too. There are also too many prophets, false teacher's false prophets who deny the word of God claiming one can make money and serve the Lord Jesus as well.. AND THAT IS WHY STEALING TAX EVASIONS, SOCIAL WELFARE FRAUD IS OFTEN CARRIED OUT EVEN IN EVANGELICAL CHURCHES BY LEADERS, MEMBERS, ADHERENTS STILL
Christians need to remember that The world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever. (1 John 2:1) and do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (Rom 12:2)   (1 Tim 6:10 KJV)  For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.(2 Cor 6:17 KJV)  Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.  (Heb 10:38 KJV) " Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him. "
Yes I do rightfully have a problem and so should we all with the so called but still very immoral Christians persons, rather thieves who are still trying to make money from the Gospel, Bibles, tapes, videos, Books, seminars now as well. So should we all. I am rightfully no fan supporter of any hireling that tries to make money of the Gospel.. not of any of them.. I rightfully have no use for Christian Ministries, Pastors, persons  who ask or  beg for money too.  They clearly and wrongfully are not living by faith in God.  (Psa 37:25 KJV)  "I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread." My personal religious experience, problems as well with the Brethren, Baptist, Alliance, Pentecostal, Full Gospel and  Latter Day movements.. the problem is not just  the  lies too often preached, the false biblical limitations in any of these groups but still the too often too many liars, wolves in sheep clothing that  I do really find there all claiming to be preaching the word, serving Jesus Christ.. and they are clearly not.. Do you really think there is such a thing as a little bit pregnant, a little bit sin being allowed now especially for pastors? when you see even  their sins of abuses of others you clearly are still just seeing  the tip of the iceberg. It is an indication of idols in their own life that they are unwilling to give up. One of the reasons is that sadly too many even professing Christians have still even now made their the acquisition, pursuit of money, the false love for all of the things that money can buy,  as their false idol, and one of their false goal in life, and as a result they now personally  do not really have love for God, love for his people or love for others... and this is still really unacceptable to God. I am also concerned that they may be  misleading people that it is easy to come to Canada. Are they telling firstly truthfully to all of their clients, that 97 percent of all applicants to Canada as immigrants will not be accepted firstly too? Even if they are professing Christians, I do not show false partiality to them. I in particularly have no respect for the much too many wolves in sheep clothing, hirelings, prostitutes, the false persons who wrongfully mix Christianity with money making, the money changes. There is no such things a little bit vice, corruption, people who are a little bit crooked tend to eventually become major crooks
And  I rightfully do not like the idea of the Christians using their church contacts to sell secular services to them as well such as cars, insurance, home salesmen or even  Immigration Consultant who jobs still  is a merely another word for a dirty no good salesman, or sales women, a  criminal, a  liar.. one of Canada's biggest scams..  they often still do take your money under mostly false pretenses, provide you mostly a false dream, expectations.. and you have just as good chance now as winning a million dollar lottery  as you have to come to Canada as an immigrant these days especially  if you are not a doctor or a rich person. I have in the past been personally  familiar with  Canada's immigration agency and even with some of their judges as well.
(Eccl 12:1 KJV)  Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them;

And how many of the so called Christians apply these verses, actually live daily by faith in God to supply all of their needs, physical ones included?
(Heb 10:38 KJV)  Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him.
(Heb 10:39 KJV)  But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul.
(Luke 18:8 KJV)  Nevertheless when the Son of man cometh, shall he find faith on the earth?
On their own.. or by my own acts.. neither...
My version of the reasons for success now in life..
Things in life on their own or by our own actions generally never go the way we had planned, foreseen, expected...  I personally have learned many years ago that I have no positive influences, none what so ever, none what so ever, no control over any of the circumstances of life  that do now in the present, in the future will surround me. Rather in my own life have learned that God alone, note that God alone, can positively or negatively influence them, change them,  even in response to both my personal prayers and the prayer of others, and my personally  prayers alone are generally not enough to affect these changeless now as well. through our all of life I do also need the prayers of others. God is willing, desires also now to  make the positive changes if we humbly approach him now as well and ask him to do them for us.
Psalm 3:1  A Psalm of David, when he fled from Absalom his son. LORD, how are they increased that trouble me! many are they that rise up against me. 2  Many there be which say of my soul, There is no help for him in God. Selah. 3  But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head. 4  I cried unto the LORD with my voice, and he heard me out of his holy hill. Selah. 5  I laid me down and slept; I awaked; for the LORD sustained me. 6  I will not be afraid of ten thousands of people, that have set themselves against me round about. 7  Arise, O LORD; save me, O my God: for thou hast smitten all mine enemies upon the cheek bone; thou hast broken the teeth of the ungodly. 8  Salvation belongeth unto the LORD: thy blessing is upon thy people. Selah.
God still personally   looks after me even when I am most helpless, even in my sleep. and what joy to know this.
Psalm 4:1  To the chief Musician on Neginoth, A Psalm of David. Hear me when I call, O God of my righteousness: thou hast enlarged me when I was in distress; have mercy upon me, and hear my prayer. 2  O ye sons of men, how long will ye turn my glory into shame? how long will ye love vanity, and seek after leasing? Selah. 3  But know that the LORD hath set apart him that is godly for himself: the LORD will hear when I call unto him. 4  Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah. 5  Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, and put your trust in the LORD. 6  There be many that say, Who will show us any good? LORD, lift thou up the light of thy countenance upon us. 7  Thou hast put gladness in my heart, more than in the time that their corn and their wine increased.  8  I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for the, LORD, only makes me dwell in safety.
Because Jesus is looking after me I can go back to sleep. even peacefully and not worthy about any of it too now.I can give it all to him to look after all of my needs. he fully able, willing, dependable to do so now as well. Praise the Lord.  The best things for me in life have generally occurred unexpectedly now as well.
Too often it is rather still the wrong spirit, and Not God who is controlling, influencing you personally
Many years ago I learned that not all of the so called Christians songs, hymns, choruses were anointed, blessed now or even written by God, in fact generally most of them were not, they were even  carnal, wrong, fleshly attempts to make money even... I next personally had learned that direct scripture  in song is what God blessed the most when I listened to it too..
Many people often send me human inspired, written devotional.. most of them tend still to lead me away from God and not to God.. for they have just as many falsehoods , distractions, detours, errors in them as they have supposedly truths too.. they have both the wheat and tares.. as a result I truly still do prefer to receive, get the simple, unadulterated word of God generally. 

(1Co 3:16) Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? (1Co 3:17) If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are. (1Co 6:19) What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? (1Co 6:20) For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.  
(John 10:13 KJV)  The hireling fleeth, because he is an hireling, and careth not for the sheep.
(John 10:14 KJV)  I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine.
(John 10:15 KJV)  As the Father knoweth me, even so know I the Father: and I lay down my life for the sheep.
(1 Sam 12:23 KJV)  Moreover as for me, God forbid that I should sin against the LORD in ceasing to pray for you: but I will teach you the good and the right way:
(1 Sam 12:24 KJV)  Only fear the LORD, and serve him in truth with all your heart; for consider how great things he hath done for you.
(1 Sam 12:25 KJV)  But if ye shall still do wickedly, ye shall be consumed, both ye and your king.
(James 5:16 KJV)  Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.17   Elias was a man subject to like passions as we are, and he prayed earnestly that it might not rain: and it rained not on the earth by the space of three years and six months.18   And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth brought forth her fruit. 19   Brethren, if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him; 20  Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.
I have often said that the true church of Jesus Christ is believers who pray one for another. Prayer works. I do not even know who the people are that pray for me, but I know for certainty their prayers works. I want to thank all of you who have prayed for me at any time, I really have appreciated it. I often may not agree with everything you do and say but I will pray for you, pray that God will do the right thing still for you as well  and yet it seems many Christian people even try to do the opposite.. they LISTEN TO THE ADVICE and they  fellowship with unbelievers mostly.. they reject biblical advice, even in fellowshipping only with believers.
(Jer 17:5 KJV)  Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD. 6   For he shall be like the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh; but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land and not inhabited.
(Jer 17:7 KJV)  Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is.8  For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit.
(Jer 17:9 KJV)  The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?10   I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.
(Jer 17:11 KJV)  As the partridge sitteth on eggs, and hatcheth them not; so he that getteth riches, and not by right, shall leave them in the midst of his days, and at his end shall be a fool.
(Luke 14:31 KJV)  Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? 32  Or else, while the other is yet a great way off, he sendeth an ambassage, and desireth conditions of peace. 33  So likewise, whosoever he be of you that forsaketh not all that he hath, he cannot be my disciple.
(1 Cor 6:1 KJV)  Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unjust, and not before the saints? 2  Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters? 3  Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life? 4  If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set them to judge who are least esteemed in the church. 5  I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren? 6  But brother goeth to law with brother, and that before the unbelievers. 7  Now therefore there is utterly a fault among you, because ye go to law one with another. Why do ye not rather take wrong? why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded? 8  Nay, ye do wrong, and defraud, and that your brethren. 9  Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10  Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 11  And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. 12  All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.
I have rightfully no faith, no trust in lawyers, or in  any professionals for that matter, not even the doctors, nurses, accountants, police, pastors, none of them can be really trusted to do the right thing.. none of them.. and unless absolutely required by law I prefer not to use any of their services still.   "So likewise, whosoever he be of you that forsaketh not all that he hath, he cannot be my disciple:" or do we still falsely rely firstly on them, over God? and then also wondering  why God firstly  is not hearing our prayer?
Christians do not need divorce lawyers too, for true Christians do not get divorced..  I was being sued once by a professing Christian too.. naturally I hired lawyer to defend myself.. and how many people still really do know that when you want to sin the devil will often supply you with all of the money you need and encourage you to do it? I did not even pray about it.. it was an impulsive, natural, human thing for me  to do.. needless to say things were not going my way rather the court proceedings were being escalated..  and what do you think the devil does with sins? so I now  prayed about it.. and God said to me "why do you need a lawyer? am I not the only  advocate you need?" embarrassed I said yes lord, what should I do? and I had spent thousands on the lawyer.. God said drop the lawyer.. then he said when I agreed to do it.. write a letter to the courts, have it notarized, tell the courts in writing that you oppose the action and you ask for a court appointed mediator.. it cost me 15 dollars to do this.   I next never paid a cent.
Only one time in my life besides myself have I met a Christian who was being sued, next personally refused to take a lawyer, and insisted with the suing party that the matter be settled out of court.. ironically he did the right thing, cause I had witnessed myself before that he had done wrong to the other party, he had lied to them when he had sold their home.
A Christian women was being sued, the sub contractor had put a lien on her home, he was demanding payment for his services cause his own payment were not being met by the general contractors. The Christian women who lived in Calgary Alberta was in danger of losing her home. As she paid about it she saw an image of  my face and I was living now thousands of miles away in other city too, Montreal Quebec , all unknown to her. The same women had lied to me, she did not keep her agree upon promise to me, as a Realtor and that was my very first client too,  when I sold her home for a good, miraculous price.. she promised she would use my services to buy another home.. instead she lied and used the services of this contractor directly and got into problem. I did not sue her for it I left it in the Lord's hand. next miraculously God supplied me a free airplane ticket, and free hotel accommodations for the weekend in Calgary to attend a full gospel business man conference there.. and God told me to rent a car and to go and see the women. I did not know why still too.. I obeyed and she was glad to see me and told me about her problems. God there told me that if I forgave her, she would be forgiven next by God too.. so I prayed for her, and forgave her.
Many times I have met with people who have done me wrong and they next asked me to forgive them.. the others they reaped what they had sowed too.  For example- A Christian person asked to be my real estate partner, stating that we would share the profits... since he was a Christian who asked I agreed to this. On our first sale we split the profits from my sale. On the next sale the professing Christian refused to split the sale of his profit claiming I had not done anything to earn it.. I put it into God's hand.. the home buyer sued the Christian Realtor  for almost  the exact amount of the commission owed to me and the Christian Realtor lost in court, had to pay the fine. God is able to deal with our oppressors.
(I 12:46 KJV)  The lord of that servant will come in a day when he looketh not for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in sunder, and will appoint him his portion with the unbelievers.
(Luke 12:47 KJV)  And that servant, which knew his lord's will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes.
(Luke 12:48 KJV)  But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.
(Luke 12:49 KJV)  I am come to send fire on the earth; and what will I, if it be already kindled?
Reaping and sowing, of one's wages are not a popular subject for Bible study except when it comes to material personal prosperity.... rather the untempered with mortar subject is often distorted, even neglected still today. Some people would lie to you and say that Christians no longer reap anything negative for their unrepentant sins.. rebellions against God... or are unrepentant sins are not covered by the blood of Jesus still?
(Lev 19:13 KJV)  Thou shalt not defraud thy neighbour, neither rob him: the wages of him that is hired shall not abide with thee all night until the morning.
(Jer 22:13 KJV)  Woe unto him that buildeth his house by unrighteousness, and his chambers by wrong; that useth his neighbour's service without wages, and giveth him not for his work;
(Hag 1:6 KJV)  Ye have sown much, and bring in little; ye eat, but ye have not enough; ye drink, but ye are not filled with drink; ye clothe you, but there is none warm; and he that earneth wages earneth wages to put it into a bag with holes.
(Mal 3:5 KJV)  And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me, saith the LORD of hosts.
 (John 4:36 KJV)  And he that reapeth receiveth wages, and gathereth fruit unto life eternal: that both he that soweth and he that reapeth may rejoice together.
(Rom 6:23 KJV)  For the wages of sin is death;  

I am struck that God does so often repeats the basics.. too many even Christian people next do even forget even the Christian basics.. remember how simple it was when you first loved Jesus, Realized how real he was personally..
(1 John 4:19 KJV)  We love him, because he first loved us.
basics too often such as...
(1 John 4:20 KJV)  If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?
(1 John 4:21 KJV)  And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.
(Rev 2:4 KJV)  Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love.5  Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.
Psalm 8:1 O LORD our Lord, how excellent is thy name in all the earth! who hast set thy glory above the heavens. 2  Out of the mouth of babes and sucklings hast thou ordained strength because of thine enemies, that thou mightest still the enemy and the avenger. 3  When I consider thy heavens, the work of thy fingers, the moon and the stars, which thou hast ordained; 4  What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him? 5  For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour. 6  Thou madest him to have dominion over the works of thy hands; thou hast put all things under his feet: 7  All sheep and oxen, yea, and the beasts of the field;
8  The fowl of the air, and the fish of the sea, and whatsoever passeth through the paths of the seas.
9  O LORD our Lord, how excellent is thy name in all the earth!
In fact for many back then we even loved the simple basic hymns, we sang them with meaning as well...
If you ask most people if they are righteous, they will almost all interpret that to mean that they personally are good persons, that they really are not worse than any other persons  and they will reply yes. In this context they are self righteous persons, they do wrongfully trust in themselves, in  their own good works to make them in a right standing with God. Sadly even many Christians fall back into this trap, category. God says in reality the evidence of a righteous person includes that they are also daily, continually in God's word? Are you then really righteous, in a right standing with God? are you in His word today too? for the ungodly, or the unrighteous, those  persons not in right standing before God are not in His Word daily, they do not really read, follow, practice God's word the Bible daily, continually.
Many people are praying to fall in love, and they do not even know what the word means, in fact I am often surpassed when they do now call some of the romantic movies, movies about sex as comedies, for that seems to rightfully describe their wrong  versions of pathetic love.
Let us review the meaning of ' Love
1:   The word “love” in English has so many different definitions supposedly including
  • Romance
  • Eros
  • Storge
  • Philia
  • Self-love
  • Desire
  • Agape
  • Narcissism
  • Sex
  • Gay
The word “love” in English has so many various definitions as we all tend to know , for instance: I love my dog, my wife, cherry pie, my children, my sister, myself etc. 
But in the Greek there are three basic, main words for love.  Eros, Philia, Agape


One Greek word for love is “Eros”, from which we get the word erotic.  It has self-centered interests with its main focus being on physically receiving.  'Eros', means physical, sensual, romantic  affections and can be described as desires or erotic love. Many people wrongfully confuse this as being a love from God.. and they sadly do not tend to know any other levels of love.. such as  Philia  or next even Agape..

Eros is the false type of love that is most emphasized  in our society today- a sensual mostly love that is based on receiving- a passionate love depicted on TV and novels, or manifested by Gays.  One person once commented: “My friends do not fall in love; they mostly fall into lust.” 

A lot, lot of persons also today do LIVE BY THEIR FEELINGS, not by the word of God, they are mostly  led by and live by their own demonic lusts, the Eros love.. that is what a lot of these feelings still are.. even the feelings of high, excitements, desires.. they are not living in God's love or on His will for them.. This is not just the gays now, the adulterers, pornographers, but even most of ordinary supposedly good persons too who do this now, next too.

(John 8:44 KJV)  Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
(2 Pet 2:10 KJV)  But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness,
(1 John 2:16 KJV)  For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
(1 John 2:17 KJV)  And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

We need to walk by faith, walking in faith means always applying God's word personally.. then we will walk in the love and in the Spirit of God.. not in the lust of the flesh.

(Gal 5:16 KJV)  This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

In the  New Testament Greek there are only two  main words for love.    Philia  Agape

The New Testament is void of the word “Eros”;  it is only found in the New Testament classical Greek.


Another Greek word for love is “phileo”; it represents mutual  tender affection- the sharing, warm fuzzies.   It's love now  focus on both giving and receiving. 

 The word 'Philia means affection (as in Philadelphia which means brotherly affection or brotherly love (delphos = brother)).  

 Phileo is an emotional, brotherly  love, a  love which would best be illustrated in the Bible as that between David and Jonathan. 

The relationship between Lazarus and Jesus depicts this type of love as well:

Jn.11:3  So the sisters sent word to Jesus, "Lord, the one you love is sick."

Again when Jesus sees Mary crying, we read:

Jn.11:35-36  Jesus wept.  Then the Jews said, "See how he loved him!"

Then there was also the close disciple whom Jesus loved:

Jn.20:2  So she came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one Jesus loved, and said, "They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we don’t know where they have put him

It is on the basis of Phileo that we are commanded to a brotherly kiss out of fraternal affection

Ro  16:16   Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ send greetings However when Judas greets Jesus to betray him, the Greek word is not the word for kiss, but the word phileo- the word for love:

Mk.14:44  Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: "The one I kiss (phileo) is the man; arrest him and lead him away under guard."

It is important that the command to love is never phileo, because it is an emotional love that comes out of a mutual reciprocal relationship but rather Agape 

However, it must be pointed out that for a Christian to phileo love someone definitely also always includes the agape love as well. 

God the Father Agape loved his Son:

Jn.3:35  The Father loves the Son and has placed everything in his hands. But God also phileo loved Jesus because of their relationship:

Jn.5:20  For the Father loves the Son and shows him all he does. Yes, to your amazement he will show him even greater things than these.

God agape loves his church

Jn.14:21  He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him."

But God also loves us because of the relationship we have with his Son:

Jn.16:27  No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God. The relational phileo love for Christ is in the context of relationship, else the Bible says we will be cursed.

1Co.16:22  If anyone does not love the Lord— a curse be on him. Come, O Lord!

However if we are in a relationship with the God, he will rebuke and discipline us as the need arises:

Re.3:19  Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.

Therefore phileo love comes from a relationship which shares common interests- both giving and receiving.


Finally there is the Greek word for love: “agape” which represents an attitude of love that is non selfish. It has a self-less interest with its focus on primary giving to others.  Agape can be described as unconditional positive regard, a personal state of mind that spurs us into helpful, needful action in personal simplicity, humility, compassion and equanimity. Agape is the higher form, manifestation  of God's true love for all of us  which we all still do need to personally have, promote, cultivate by letting God have full control of our lives.

The Greek word agape is mostly  foreign to classical Greek because it’s origin is from God: 

1Jn.4:7        …for love comes from God.

The first disciples of Jesus Christ were incapable of agape love until after Pentecost, for agape love comes from the Holy Spirit alone:

Ro.5:5  And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.

The fact that the disciples were void of agape love prior to Pentecost  becomes clear in John 21 where Jesus uses the word agape:

Jn.21:15  When they had finished eating, Jesus said to Simon Peter, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me more than these?" "Yes, Lord," he said, "you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my lambs."

Peter’s response was “I phileo love you.”  Did Peter not understand the question?  Jesus repeats himself:

Jn.21:16  Again Jesus said, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me?" He answered, "Yes, Lord, you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Take care of my sheep."

Again Jesus uses the word “agape”, yet Peter again responds with phileo, love based on a relationship.  Jesus in his third attempt asks, “Peter do you phileo love me?”

Jn.21:17  The third time he said to him, "Simon son of John, do you love me?" Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, "Do you love me?" He said, "Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my sheep.

Peter could not experience agape love in and of himself, its origin is of God:

1Jo 4:8  for God is love.

Agape is an outward manifestation of an inward change

1Co 16:14  Do everything in love.

Agape love is a love that is based on the one doing the loving and not on the one receiving the love being lovely or worthy of that love:

Ro 5:8  But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

The love of God could not be understood by man until Christ died on the cross:

1Jn.3:16  This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

Agape love is the highest love as it is selfless, this differentiates it from all human forms of love:

Jn.15:13  Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

Agape love is not based on feelings, therefore it can be commanded:

Jn.15:12  "This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.

Agape love is not based on relationship, we are now called to love more then our neighbor, our enemy:

Lk.6:27-28   But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

There is much confusion these days on what love is.  Phileo always tries to please the one that is being loved.  Agape always does what is best on behalf of the person even though it might not be perceived as love at that time:

Ro.8:28  And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Is everything good that God allows in our life, “no”; but because of his love for us, it will be for our good. 

He.12 :5-6    "My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,  because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son."

In the same way, if we agape love someone, we might have to tell them how God perceives their actions.  Some people say the things others want to hear, instead we need to say those things they need to hear: 

Therefore let us enjoy the phileo love we have for each other as we do life together, but let us also love with the same love that God has always willing to reach out to those who do not know the love of God.

There are many kinds of love, but the greatest of these is agape love.

 (James 1:17 KJV)  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

...and when we love one another with agape love, even ours spouses, we do love God also.

How to have a good marriage

Recognize that it is God's good will generally for you


(Psa 94:17 KJV)  Unless the LORD had been my help, my soul had almost dwelt in silence.

(Psa 127:1 KJV)   Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.

(Genesis 2:18 KJV)
(18) And the Lord God said, {It is} not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

(Genesis 2:24 KJV)
(24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

(Proverbs 18:22 KJV)
(22) {Whoso} findeth a wife findeth a good {thing}, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.

(Jeremiah 29:6 KJV)
(6) Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.

(Hosea 2:19-20 KJV)
(19) And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. (20) I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the Lord.

(1 Corinthians 7:2-4 KJV)
(2) Nevertheless, {to avoid} fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. (3) Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. (4) The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

(1 Timothy 5:14 KJV)
(14) I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

(Hebrews 13:4 KJV)
(4) Marriage {is} honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

(Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV)
(22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. (24) Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so {let} the wives {be} to their own husbands in every thing. (25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (26) That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, (27) That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. (28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: (30) For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (32) This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (33) Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife {see} that she reverence {her} husband.

(1 Peter 3:1 KJV)
(1) Likewise, ye wives, {be} in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

(1 Peter 3:7 KJV)
(7) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with {them} according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

What to do when you are having Marital Problems

(Ephesians 4:31-32 KJV)
(31) Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: (32) And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

(Genesis 2:18 KJV)
And the Lord God said, {It is} not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

(Genesis 2:24 KJV)
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

(Ephesians 5:21-33 KJV)
(21) Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. (22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. (24) Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so {let} the wives {be} to their own husbands in every thing. (25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (26) That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, (27) That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. (28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherish- eth it, even as the Lord the church: (30) For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (32) This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (33) Never- theless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife {see} that she reve- rence {her} husband.

(1 Peter 3:1-7 KJV)
(1) Likewise, ye wives, {be} in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; (2) While they behold your chaste conver- sation {coupled} with fear. (3) Whose adorning let it not be that outward {adorning} of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; (4) But {let it be} the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, {even the ornament} of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. (5) For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: (6) Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. (7) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with {them} according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

(Joshua 24:15 KJV)
And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that {were} on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

(Romans 13:10 KJV)
Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: there- fore love {is} the fulfilling of the law.

(Psalm 101:2 KJV)
I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.

(1 Peter 3:8-11 KJV)
(8) Finally, {be ye} all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, {be} pitiful, {be} courteous: (9) Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise bless- ing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. (10) For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: (11) Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.

(Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV)
(5) Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. (6) In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

(Proverbs 10:12 KJV)
Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.

(1 Peter 1:22 KJV)
Seeing ye have purified your souls in obey- ing the truth through the spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, {see that ye} love one another with a pure heart fervently:


Romantic Fiction and Christians- The Hidden Enemy

(Intro: Most of what we tend to encounter in film, radio, books, magazines under the term "Romance - Love" are merely seductive evil spirits, and the lust of the decaying flesh.)

Surprising Insights

Romantic fiction: the female equivalent of porn?

Just as it is morally wrong for a man to develop an appetite for women other than his wife by exposing himself to porn, so it is wrong for a wife to expose herself to romantic fiction, because it could stimulate dissatisfaction with her husband.

There are amazing similarities between women viewing or reading romantic fiction (soap operas, movies and romance novels, etc) and men viewing soft porn.

Few of those engaged in either activity see any harm in it. They think they can have a little fantasy and a little pleasure without it weakening their real life relationships. It’s so easy to excuse enjoying romantic fiction, just as it’s easy for men to excuse appreciating female flesh.

Women long for romance like men long for erotica (the visual side of sex). They would like it as a prelude to sexual relations just like men would like an erotic display as a prelude to the physical side of sex. And men typically feel uncomfortable about romance, like many women feel uncomfortable about such things giving their partner a private strip show.

Both erotica and romantic fiction create images of, and create a longing for, things that no normal partner could ever match, with the result that both sexes end up wishing their partners were more like those portrayed on the screen. With porn, lighting, making up, poses, photo touch-ups (even plastic surgery) and so on mean that even beautiful women cannot compete. In addition, men become addicted to variety. Romantic novels, films etc. are equally artificial and impossible for any normal man to get anywhere near equaling. Novelists and script writers devote enormous effort to getting the man saying the perfect thing in just the right romantic setting. They are experts in knowing what appeals to women, like those involved in the porn industry are experts in knowing what appeals to men. In real life situations not even the writers themselves could equal the charm of their fictional characters. Normal conversation, for instance, would not allow them enough time to get their lines right.

In real life, the initial euphoria of romance wears off. The really heady stuff is more likely with a new partner. Similarly, men get less and less excited about seeing their wives nude.

If you sense something wrong with men going to strip joints but nothing wrong with romantic fiction, it might do well to remember how Jesus warned against our tendency to have 20/20 vision when it comes to seeing the faults of others, but being decidedly short-sighted about our own weaknesses. Each of us must decide before God where to draw the line, and we will come to different conclusions, but it is before God that we will one day stand.

Comments by women

    From the co-author of a Christian book for woman:

      I agree with your questioning of romance books. I quit reading all Christian romances when I noticed my discontent with my husband was increasing. He was nothing like the men in romance novels, and the harder I tried to make him ‘perfect’ the more miserable we both became.

    Another woman writes:

      Women get caught up in story fantasy where men get caught in visual fantasy. Women become dissatisfied with their lives because their husbands don’t measure up to the hero, and the romance isn’t there as it is in the story.

      If women would put in more effort into their real life relationships instead of living through fantasy, there would be less family difficulties. Women are so easily led by their emotions, and feelings. They are very ‘I’ centered also. Through these fantasies they focus on how everyone should be treating them but never see how they are treating others.

    Yet another woman writes:

      I agree with you about romantic fiction. I’d long felt uneasy about it (and especially about so-called Christian romantic fiction), but so many women I know live off it that I wondered if it was just a matter of taste (or like one friend said to me, “Not everyone can read that high-brow stuff you read”). I think you hit the nail on the head. What you say about women becoming dissatsified with their husbands as a result of reading (or watching, in the case of TV or films) romantic fiction is something I’ve witnessed several times among my friends and acquaintances. Mind you, this has also happened to some of them as a result of reading books about Christian marriage (they must have skipped the chapters about Christian wives).

It is primarily women who like romance, giving gifts, remembering birthdays, verbalizing emotions, and so on. The more these longings are fanned by romantic fiction, the more women end up virtually craving women in men’s bodies. This has disturbing implications for lesbianism. Perhaps it is also another reason why single women who don’t limit themselves to Christian men find that the men they are most attracted to are often gay. Homosexuals tend to display more typically feminine traits.

There are things women would like their partner to do for them because it makes women feel feminine. What women need to realize, however, is that often these very things makes their partner’s feel effeminate. Except in romantic fiction, what lights your fire, probably puts his fire out. Like the performance women put on in sex shows, the men in romantic fiction seem to enjoy these things, but it’s all part of the act.

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